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Here are the tastingspoons players. I’m in the middle (Carolyn). Daughter Sara on the right, and daughter-in-law Karen on the left. I started the blog in 2007, as a way to share recipes with my family. I’m still doing 99% of the blogging and holding out hope that these two lovely and excellent cooks will participate. They both lead very busy lives, so we’ll see.

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BOOK READING (from Carolyn):

Music of Bees, Eileen Garvin. Absolutely charming book about a woman in midlife, lonely, who raises bees, also makes unlikely friends. Heart-warming and very interesting about beekeeping.

A Postcard from Paris, Alex Brown. Really cute story. Dual time line, 1940s and present day about renovating an old apartment in Paris, things discovered.

Time of the Child, Niall Williams. Oh such a good book. Very small village in Ireland, 1960s. A baby is left on the doorstep. The town all whispers and helps. I listened to an interview of the author, which made me like him and his books even more.

Sipsworth, Simon Van Booy. If you like animals you’ll swoon. An old woman who really wants to die finds a tiny mouse in her house and befriends it and finds a reason to live. Utterly charming book.

The Forger’s Spell, Edward Dolnick. True story. For seven years a no-account painter named Han van Meegeren managed to pass off his paintings as those of Johannes Vermeer.

If You Lived Here, You’d be Home by Now, Christopher Ingraham. Could hardly put it down – about a journalist who takes on a challenge to move to small town in Minnesota and write about it. He expects to hate it and the people and place, but he doesn’t. Absolutely wonderful true story.

The River We Remember, William Kent Kreuger. 1950s, Minnesota. A murder and the aftermath. Could hardly put it down. Kreuger has such a vivid imagination and writing style.

How the Lights Gets In, Joyce Maynard. An older woman returns to New Hampshire to help care for her brain-injured son. Siblings and family, lots of angst and resentments.

The Filling Station, Vanessa Miller. Every American should read this book. A novelized retelling of the Tulsa massacre in 1921. Absolutely riveting.

The Story She Left Behind, Patti Callahan Henry. Love this author. Based on a true story. A famous author simply vanishes, leaving her husband and daughter behind. She had invented a mystical language no one could translate. Present day, someone thinks he’s solved the riddle, contacts the family. Really interesting read.

The Girl from Berlin, Ronald Balson. Love anything about Tuscany. An elderly woman is being evicted from a villa there, with odd deed provenance. Two young folks go there to help unravel the mystery. Loved it.

The Island of the Colorblind, Oliver Sacks, M.D. Nonfiction. The dr is intrigued by a remote Pacific island where most of the inhabitants are colorblind. He also unravels a mystery on Guam of people born with a strange neurological problem. Medical mysteries unveiled. Very interesting.

The Bookbinder, Pip Williams. Post 1914 London. Two sisters work at a bookbindery. They’re told to not read the books. One does and one doesn’t. One has visions beyond her narrow world; the other does not. Eventually the one gets into Oxford. Lovely story.

The Paris Express, Emma Donoghue. 1895 on a train to Paris, a disaster happens. You’ll delve into the lives of many people who survived and died in the crash.

A Race to the Bottom of Crazy, Richard Grant. This is about Arizona. Author, wife and child move back to Arizona where they once lived. Part memoir, research, and reporting in a quest to understand what makes Arizona such a confounding and irresistible place.

The Scarlet Thread, Francine Rivers. A woman’s life turned upside down when she discovers the handcrafted quilt and journal of her ancestor Mary Kathryn McMurray, a young woman who was uprooted from her home only to endure harsh frontier conditions on the Oregon Trail.

A Place to Hide, Ronald Balson. 1939 Amsterdam, an ambassador has the ability to save the lives of many Jewish children. Heartwarming.

Homeseeking, Karissa Chen. Two young Chinese teens are deeply in love, but in China. Then their families are separated. Jump to current day and the two meet again in Los Angeles.

North River, Pete Hammill. He always writes such a good story. A doctor works diligently healing people from all walks of life. His wife and daughter left him years before. One day his 3-yr old grandson arrives on his doorstep.

A Very Typical Family, Sierra Godfrey. A very messed-up family. Three adult children are given a home in Santa Cruz, Calif, but only if the siblings meet up and live in the house together. A very untypical scenario but makes for lots of messes.

Three Days in June, Anne Tyler. The usual Anne Tyler grit. Family angst. This wasn’t one of my favorites, but it was entertaining and very short.

Saved, Benjamin Hall. Author is a veteran war reporter. Ukraine, 2022, he nearly loses his life to a Russian strike. Riveting story – he survives, barely.

Grey Wolf, Louise Penny. Another Inspector Gamache mystery in Quebec. She is such an incredible mystery writer.

All the Colors of the Dark, Chris Whitaker. A missing person mystery, a serial killer thriller, a love story, a unique twist on each. Could hardly put it down.

Orbital, Samantha Harvey. Winner of 2024 Booker Prize. I don’t usually like those, but I heard the author interviewed and she hooked me. This is not a normal book with a beginning, a story and an end. It’s several chapters of the day in the life of various astronauts at the ISS (Int’l Space Station). All fictional. She’s been praised by several real astronauts for “getting it” about space station everyday life.

The Blue Hour, Paula Hawkins. An island off Scotland. Inaccessible except when the tide is out. Weird goings on. An artist. A present day mystery too.

Iron Lake, William Kent Krueger. A judge is murdered and a boy is missing. Riveting mystery.

Tell the Wolves I’m Home, Carol Ricks Brunt. 1980s. A 14-yr old girl loses her beloved uncle. Yet a new friendship arises, someone she never knew about.

Four Treasures of the Sky, Jenny Zhang. 1880s, a young girl is kidnapped in China and brought to the United States. She survives with many hurdles in the path.

The Boy Who Fell out of the Sky, Ken Dornstein. Memoir, 1988. The author’s brother died in the PanAm flight that went down in Lockerbie, Scotland. A decade later he tries to solve “the riddle of his older brother’s life.”

Worse Care Scenario, T.J. Newman. Oh my. Interesting analysis of what could/might happen if a jet crashed into a nuclear plant. Un-put-downable.

Song of the Lark, Willa Cather. Complicated weave of a story about a young woman in about 1900, who has a gifted voice (singing) and about her journey to success, not without its ups and downs.

Crow Talk, Eileen Garvin. Charming story which takes place at a remote lake in Washington State, about a few people who inhabit it, the friendships made, but also revolving around the rescue of a baby crow.

The Story Collector, Evie Woods. Sweet story about some dark secrets from an area in Ireland, a bit magical, faerie life, but solving a mystery too.

A Sea of Unspoken Things, Adrienne Young. A woman investigates her twin brother’s mysterious death. She goes to a small town in California to figure it out, to figure HIM out.

The King’s Messenger, Susanna Kearsley. 1600s England, King James. About one of his trusted “messengers,” and his relationship with a young woman also of “the court.” Lots of intrigue.

In the Shadow of the Greenbrier, Emily Matchar. Interesting mystery in/around the area of the famous resort in White Sulphur Springs, West Virginia.

Isola, Allegra Goodman. Hard to describe, survival story on an island in the 1600s.

Save the Date, Allison Raskin. Rom-com, witty, LOL funny. Clever.

The Sirens, Emilia Hart. Numerous time-lines, Australia. Mysteries abound, nightmares, abandoned baby, weird allergies.

Red Clay, Charles Fancher. LOVED this book. Mostly post-Civil War story about the lives of slaves in Alabama during Reconstruction.

Stars in an Italian Sky, Jill Santopolo. Dual time line, 1946 and recent time. Love stories and a mystery.

Battle Mountain, C.J. Box. Another one of Box’s riveting mysteries. Love his descriptions of the land.

Something Beautiful Happened, Yvette Corporon. A memoir of sorts in Greece, tiny island of Erikousa, where the locals hid Jews during WWII. All elusive stories told by the author’s grandmother.

The Jackal’s Mistress, Chris Bohjalian. 1860s Virginia, about a woman who saves the life of a Union soldier. Really good story.

Song of the Magpie, Louise Mayberry. Really interesting story about Australia back in the days when it was mostly a penal colony. Gritty strength of a woman trying to thrive with her farm.

The Boomerang, Robert Bailey. A thriller that will have you gripping the book. About a lot of secrets surrounding the president (fictional novel, remember) and his chief of staff and about cancer. A cure. Such a good story.

Care and Feeding, Laurie Woolever. Really interesting memoir of a woman driven to succeed in the restaurant business. She worked for Mario Batali and then Anthony Bourdain. Gritty stories.

Everything is Tuberculosis, John Green. Maybe not a book for everyone. A real deep dive into the deadly tuberculosis infection, its history. I heard the author interviewed and found the book very interesting.

The Book Lovers Library, Madeline Martin. Fascinating read about Boots’ drug stores’ lending library. And the people who worked in them.

The Arrivals, Meg Mitchell Moore. LOL funny, about a middle-aged couple whose children (and their various family members) return to the family home and the chaos that ensues.

My Life as a Silent Movie, Jesse Lee Kercheval. About grief. A big move to Paris, finding herself a new life with a new set of real blood family.

Escape, Carolyn Jessop. Another memoir about a woman really in bondage in Utah, Mormon plural marriage.

 

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Posted in Uncategorized, on March 22nd, 2014.

My dear darling hubby, Dave, passed away yesterday, the 21st. He fought valiantly and had begun to regain consciousness from the stroke and drug-induced coma, but the doctors believe he had a sudden lung embolism (a blot clot that lodged in the lung and it stopped the heart and brain). They gave him CPR and the paddles to the chest but his heart had stopped. It was an agonizing decision to tell them to stop. My family surrounds me. I’m not cooking, obviously, but eventually I’ll get back in the kitchen, I suppose. We have 3 children and 5 grandchildren. And yes, I’m just devastated. He was the love of my life. A wonderful husband, dad, and grandpa. We were married for 31 years.

Thanks much to those of you who sent me emails or left comments. It’s a terribly lonely time when you lose a spouse but I do feel surrounded with loving and caring family and friends.

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  1. MonW

    said on March 22nd, 2014:

    Mom and I understand exactly how you feel. Dad went into the hospital on January 11, and slipped away in the CCU on January 31. Genetics and age got Dad. Dad did leave instructions for medical support and his prepaid funeral. That helped us all so much.
    A good friend who went through this warned me that the “tsunamis of tears” get more random, but still happen. It’s normal. She also said to expect more crying 2-3 months from now. That too is normal. Yelling at your husband’s photo is also very normal according to another friend. 😉 Short term memory for you may be shot for a while. Normal.

    I wish strength and determination as you begin the new endless stream of questions about his final wishes, notifying every possible government entity and so on. Get as many copies of his death certificate at once as possible and you can afford. *Every* entity will want one.

    For everyone else:
    Please have your current will, medical directives, funeral wishes, house, car titles, and other important papers for insurance, and so on easy to find for your loved ones.
    bonuses for prepaid funeral/etc, favorite verses/songs for service.

    For you:
    place your left hand on your right shoulder,
    and your right hand on your left shoulder.
    Squeeze and repeat as often as you need it.
    May you stay nice and cherished in the creator’s hands. You’re in good company.

    Many wise words you’ve shared with me. I didn’t realize the short term memory thing is part of grief. I sure do have that. And nearly everything else you described. Thank you for taking the time to share with me. . . carolyn t

  2. Beth

    said on March 22nd, 2014:

    I have read your blog for quite some time now and am so sorry to read that you lost your husband. I could tell what a wonderful marriage the two of you had. May your memories of him and your family help to get you through this difficult time.

  3. Melynda

    said on March 22nd, 2014:

    I have thought of you all this week. I am so sorry…..there are no words. I am grateful for you that you are surrounded with family and love at this time.

  4. Mary Claire Eastman

    said on March 22nd, 2014:

    I would like to add my sincere best wishes of sympathy to those you have already received.

    I’m only one of your “followers” but your write-ups have been so engaging that I’ve learned to look forward to your posts.

    I hope the well-deserved good wishes you receive from your readers will augment the support of your family and friends to help sustain you during this difficult time.

  5. janet

    said on March 22nd, 2014:

    So hoping to hear good news. I’m crying with you What a beautiful relationship you experienced. So very lucky on that one. Janet

  6. jan

    said on March 22nd, 2014:

    ohhhh, I am so sorry for your loss of your lifemate!!

    jan

  7. Monica

    said on March 22nd, 2014:

    Dear Carolyn,
    It’s going to be hard for you to imagine ever being able to laugh and smile again without your Dave, but time heals all wounds. Take comfort from your family and friends and remember all the great times you had together for 31 years. My deepest sympathies.

    Thank you so very much, Monica. I have appreciated all the outpouring of love from my blog readers. . . carolyn

  8. Susan

    said on March 22nd, 2014:

    Ann, I am so sorry to hear of your loss, my heart goes out to you. I will keep you and your family in my prayers, I pray that Jesus will wrap his loving arms around you and give you strength in those quiet moments. Susan

    Thank you, Susan. . . Carolyn T

  9. Mary S

    said on March 22nd, 2014:

    My deepest, sincerest sympathies for the loss of, Dave, the Love of Your Life. May you find comfort and peace in this lonely time with your family and friends, and your faith. God Bless.

    Thank you very much, Mary. At times I feel just bereft, like I’ll never be whole again, but then someone will tell me some wonderful thing about Dave or some thoughtful thing he said or did, and how can I feel so sad when I had the joy of him for so many years. . . Carolyn T

  10. Susan S

    said on March 22nd, 2014:

    I am so very sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine the pain you’re in right now and I will be sending you love and prayers. Please hang in there and when you’re up to being in the kitchen again, we will all celebrate your healing. Much love to you.

    Thank you, Susan. I have felt the love and caring from so many of my blog readers.

  11. Gloria - The Ginger Snap Girl

    said on March 23rd, 2014:

    Carolyn, I’m so sorry for your loss. I know that there are no words to really adequately speak to this situation. I do believe that our loved ones stay with us when then they leave the physical world. And I have no doubt your husband will continue to be by your side for many years to come. My heart goes out to you.

    Thank you, Gloria. I’m still numb, but each day has brought a bit more peace about it and I feel the love and caring, not only from my family and our friends, but also from my blog readers. . . Carolyn T

  12. Donna in MI

    said on March 24th, 2014:

    You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers during this sad time.

    Thank you Donna. I’m comforted by so many, many people who have written or commented. I truly do appreciate it. . . Carolyn T

  13. Elise

    said on March 24th, 2014:

    Carolyn, I’m so sorry for your loss. I found this quote by Leo Buscaglia and thought I might share it with you:

    “I know for certain that we never lose the people we love, even to death. They continue to participate in every act, thought and decision we make. Their love leaves an indelible imprint in our memories. We find comfort in knowing that our lives have been enriched by having shared their love.” -(Leo Buscaglia)

    Oh gosh, is that meaningful, Elise. Thank you so very much. I may put that on the program for Dave’s memorial. They’re words everyone could be comforted by. . . Carolyn T

  14. Diana Johnson

    said on March 24th, 2014:

    Oh Carolyn, how devastating. I’m so sorry for your loss. Glad you are surrounded by loving friends and families, and praying for the grief you are working through.

    Yes, I’m feeling all of those emotions associated with grief. Mostly it’s a true hollow feeling. Thank you, though. . . carolyn t

  15. Jen

    said on March 25th, 2014:

    Carolyn, I have been following your blog for the past year and was deeply saddened to hear about the passing of your husband. I remember you mentioning your husband occasionally in your posts. I wish I could cook you one of your favorites and bring it over, but I bet your family and friends are doing that. Please accept my most sincere condolences. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

    You are so kind, Jennifer. I wish you could too, but actually my normally healthy appetite has flown off. If someone else fixes something I’ll eat it but cooking is not something I can do yet. Eventually I’ll get back to the kitchen, I suspect. In time. . . carolyn t

  16. KalynsKitchen

    said on March 27th, 2014:

    I don’t know how I missed this earlier, but I am so sad to hear the news. What a wonderful guy he was, so full of life and good energy. I can’t even begin to imagine how you’re feeling. Sending you a huge virtual hug, and I wish I was closer so I could come by and deliver it in person. xoxo

    Thank you, Kalyn. Appreciate the cyber-hugs. . . carolyn t

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